SDH 228: High Performance Habits Part 1 with Amanda Boleyn


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Today I'm sharing the first 3 out of the 6 high-performance habits Brendan Burchard walks through in his book. It may sound familiar to you because I shared this book in a recent blog post, here

I’ve always been someone who has been obsessed with personal development, wanting to know how I could always get better, improve myself. This book is gold for anyone who wants to be a performer. 

I’m excited to do a 2 part solocast episode with you guys about the 6 high performing habits. I started reading this book mid-December and dove in head first. I promise you that I wouldn’t give something two episode spots if I didn’t think it warranted value for you all.

In this episode I’m going to do a deep dive into the first 3 high-performance habits but first a quote:

“Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we rather have those because we have acted right. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” - Aristotle

Brendon’s team has done hours and hours of research as to what makes a high performer a high performer.

“To succeed, always remember that the main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing”


Click here to take Brandon's High-Performance Indicator quiz.

The first 3 habits I'm diving into in depth are:

1. Seek Clarity

2. Generate Energy

3. Raise Necessity

I've already started implementing these habits and it has drastically changed my business and life for the better! (GAWD that sounded like a cheesy self-help comment....but that's okay because it was ttttrrruuueee! ;)




SDH227: How to Choose a Mastermind & How They Can Grow Your Business with Sara Christensen

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What if you ran a series of successful businesses, and all of a sudden decided to switch your entire model and pursue just one? What has always been an underlying passion of yours that you never turned into a business? What if you’d be happier in that field?  

Look no further than today’s episode with Sara Christensen, the founder of Kickass Masterminds! At Kickass Masterminds, she organizes entrepreneurs into groups so they can network, brainstorm, and build friendships or gain mentors that can help them in their businesses! Her obsession with Mastermind groups started eight years ago, and she said having a group of business besties completely changed the way she looked at business and life, and how they worked together. It also changed how she did business, who she let in to help her, and how she let them help her. Being an entrepreneur of over 5 businesses herself, she wished she had Masterminds in those building stages, and couldn’t help thinking what they could’ve been if she had those groups. That’s when she decided to open her own Mastermind business, and create support systems for entrepreneurs so they don’t have to do it alone, and grow their businesses to be the best they can be!

Sara’s journey originally began in marketing, though, but she exited the corporate world when she found herself excelling faster than her positions. So she started her own marketing agency and quickly picked up big name clients, like New Balance. When her agency began to take off, it really showed her that she didn’t need the safety of corporate America, and her drive and potential would take her places that working for someone else couldn’t. She said she didn’t want to just make her own business, she wanted to make her own financial security, too and opened up more businesses. Her ventures ranged from a jewelry design studio to a wireless tech company, and while very different, they all had a marketing focus because it was still the industry she loved the most.

But once she began attending Mastermind groups, she completely rearranged her business structure and wanted to focus more on people interactions. Plus, the idea of starting a Mastermind group just wouldn’t leave her alone. She said it was constantly on her mind, people in grocery stores would talk to her about it, and she received a lot of encouragement from her business besties. She finally decided to sit down at her computer and gave herself an hour to begin pursuing it just to get it out of her head. Once she started, she couldn’t stop, and her passion began to flow out of her. After her hour, she had a 10-page business plan ready to go and realized that it was no longer a venture dream that she could ignore.

So she sold her previous businesses to work full time at Kickass because she said she has a soft spot for people at the emotional and mental stages she was at when she first started her businesses. She said she wants to be the mentor she never knew she needed to budding entrepreneurs, and give them all the resources, networks, and guidance they will need to become financially secure. Her family grew up really poor and lived off of welfare and food stamps, so she comes from a place of creating her own luck, and wants to give others the same opportunities, and confidence.

When choosing what Mastermind is best, she said you have to look at three things. The first is the mix of people. Finding the right group dynamic is critical, and Kickass uses a mixture and algorithms, and intuitiveness to match people based off of traits like their personalities, generation, attitude, and skills. The second is the structure and the process, essentially meaning how long is the group committed to being together, their meeting schedule, and relationships outside of Kickass. The final thing to look for is who is keeping track of everything, and making sure everyone is fulfilling their roles in the group. In other Masterminds, typically that is a leader or a coach, but at Kickass, it is someone of neutral group status who is responsible for handling the logistics of the group.

She also goes into how to ease into Mastermind groups, and set goals with your group so you can progress in your businesses, and be prepared for the major changes in their lives! Stay tuned to hear all of that and more!

In this episode you will…

  • Learn how to reevaluate your business structure
  • Know how to choose a mastermind group 
  • Be able to figure out what you want most out of your life in Mastermind groups
  • See how to get acclimated to your Mastermind group
  • Know if you work better with strangers in your Mastermind group or people you know
  • Find the right business model and sales process so you can continue to progress


“I have had several experiences in my life where messages have come to me very strongly…it was coming to me in every way, shape, or form that you can even imagine…it was surrounding me, and I was like fine, I just need to get it out so it will leave me alone…in the course of an hour, I had a 10-page business plan…[And] the more and more I sat with this…and really got quiet and listened to what I wanted to do, and how I wanted to serve at that point, the more I couldn’t ignore it.” -Sara Christensen

“The honest, good, juicy stuff comes when [people] aren’t impressing each other anymore, and getting really down and dirty, because let’s face it, we all learn our lessons from the mistakes and the failures. And when we can really dive into that, that’s where the good stuff is” -Sara Christensen

“You get better when you repeat things, you don’t get better when you’re creating something new every single time. It's sort of like training for a marathon…you do your drills…over and over and over again, and you get better, and better, and better again…So for us the way we structure business is very much iterative, and we have this feedback loop in every single thing that we do, and a lot of repeating, and getting better.” -Sara Christensen

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SDH226: Tapping Into Your Gifts and Living According to Your Purpose with Mary Shores


How did you figure out strengths in your personality? What were they? Did you begin to embrace them, and build them even more? Where did that take you in life? How did you grow?

Our guest today, Mary Shores, gets into that as we learn about her mission as a motivational speaker and a writer. Her first book, Conscious Communications, was born from her love of personal development, and she helps teach it from a place where science and spirituality meet. She believes that once you tap into your subconscious and harness your words, you have the ability to change your choices, behaviors and mind. From there, you will be able to bring areas of your life into alignment, begin to find yourself, and grow as an entrepreneur and a person. Her take on personal development really struck a chord with readers, and within six weeks of her book’s release, it became the number one Best Seller for Self Esteem, Communications, and Happiness on Amazon! 

Before she wrote her book, at 24 she became the youngest person to become a CEO in communication strategy in 1999. She also created her own strategy that’s been used in business, and the health care industry for over 10 years! She said ever since she was a little girl, she always had that entrepreneur bug. Instead of playing house, she played bank, and arranged tables in her garage, drew up her own money, and set up accounts for the neighborhood kids. She even had a drive thru so they could pull up in their tricycles to make deposits and withdrawals.  In middle school she also set up a beauty supply store in her Lutheran school’s bathroom, so she could buy a $55 swimsuit, but she was kicked out once school officials found out. 

Once her parents took note of her entrepreneurial drive, they allowed her to work at their collection agency when she was 13, and she got paid a dollar an hour to lick stamps, and envelopes. She eventually went on to work at a real bank, but was devastated when she was fired after her 90-day evaluation. She said it was the worst thing to happen to her in her young life, and it created a scar of unworthiness in her. She felt like she wasn’t good enough to get a job with anyone, so she thought the only way for her to make a living was if she started her own company. 

With a few clients from her mom, and her naivety and youthful confidence in tow, she opened the doors of her collection agency! She said she was willing to handle anything that came across her desk, and was determined to build a great reputation and prove to herself and others her potential. Once she accomplished becoming a successful entrepreneur, she became focused on spiritual growth and personal development. 

She went through an existential crisis because she wanted to reach concepts of enlightenment, and self actualization, but didn’t feel it fit into her career in debt collections. She said her profession wasn’t typically looked at as a positive thing, but she wanted people to look at paying off their debt as a release of a psychological burden. To her, it could become a foundation of shame and unworthiness, and keep people from starting their own businesses, applying for homes, or pursuing relationships. She wanted people to break down those barriers to live the life of their dreams, and have the freedom to tap into their authentic gifts to begin living according to their purposes.

She said to find those gifts, people can do simple things like taking the Myer Briggs personality test, or a Disc profile, so they can know their strongest traits and what their challenges may be. She suggests highlighting the positive traits, and begin actively applying them to your life. For her it was speaker and leader, and she started stepping heavily into those roles in her business and industry, and her mission of changing people’s viewpoint on debt expanded into changing the entire collections industry!

See how she did just that by listening to today’s episode!

In this episode you will…

  • Be able to find your authentic gifts
  • Know what your strongest personality traits are, and start applying them to your life
  • See how to inspire people within your industry to change their methods
  • Be able to change the public’s idea about your industry
  • Know how to create new neuropathways and understand your subconscious mind
  • Figure out the best mindset to approach self help events with


"Our mind is built up of all these neuro networks that drive our behaviors, choices, habits, fears. Everything is coming out of this subconscious, but the magic is it can be changed…the way you get from here to there, is you gotta get all these areas of your life in alignment, and moving in the direction that you want. If we can accept that infinite possibilities are available to us…[we begin to do] things we that will connect us more to the things that we want, and stop us from flowing in all the uncertainty, and negative circumstances that swallow us whole.” – Mary Shores

“I think we’re in this place where we love to get quick fixes. We love to go away to that weekend workshop that’s going to give us a transformation…What I’ve learned is that true transformation happens in small pivots over time…if I were to come to [an] event, I would pick out the things that I knew…and I would think, how can I apply these things to my life…At an event, you’re going to learn many concepts, and my goal is to come away with one…I don’t have this expectation hang-over anymore…[and] I’ve built myself into a lot of resiliency and strength, and the ability to even see how those concepts apply to my life.” -Mary Shores

“My mantra was, ‘I want to write a book, but I’m not a writer’. And the thing is words are like a mirror to your subconscious programming, and when I [said] the words, ‘I want to write a book’ it [was] like you were looking in and seeing it written on my soul like a purpose. But the problem is the words, ‘I’m not a writer’ are also a mirror to my subconscious and it’s revealing to me one of those blocks…and so what I needed to do to eliminate that was to invest in myself.” -Mary Shores


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